Self-love

We always try and be kind to others. We care for the choices of the ones we love. We make sure that they remain happy, we work hard to make a smile creep on their countenance, we try and fulfill all they desire. No, it isn’t just because we want them, it’s because we love them. In fact, strangely majority of times they aren’t even ours- we simply care for their happiness because we love them. We never express that we love them or care for them but our gestures send out the message beautifully, our eyes refuse to hide our feelings. We comply with all their demands, help them even in the most mundane tasks, even if a storm is building in our own backyard. We love them with all our might, sacrifice ourselves for their well-being and stop expecting anything in return. While the feeling might be beautiful but the pain is excruciating- the pain of knowing they would never be ours that the feelings our eyes express will remain unacknowledged. This is when we need to stop and retrospect. We need to start being kind to ourselves, we need to love ourselves and not deprecate the self to suit someone else’s being- the someone who does not even understand what we feel for them, the someone who would never feel the same way for us. Of course, love should not come with an expectation of love in return but it should also not be filled with self-harm. It should not destroy our mental peace or hurt us in a way that breaks us beyond repair. Love is beautiful and one of the most important feelings one encounters in their lifetime but SELF-LOVE is important for us to stay sane, for us to stay whole!